Kevin McCoy

How has Kevin upgraded their leadership?

I’m someone who always gets along with others (a people pleaser). This dates back even to my childhood - my parents tell me that I was always easy going and able to blend into situations. While this has been a strength that has helped me, the imbalance has also held me back in ways that I had not fully been aware (at work, at home, and socially). My own pre-resiliency journey helped me gain more awareness on how often I avoid conflict to ensure I get along & the problems it has caused in my past.   I identified a bunch of “red arrow behaviors” – things I was doing that told others not to “go there” and tell me the truth. These were holding me back. As an example, I would often flip flop and not share my own POV on a situation – often asking questions vs. saying what I think. The program put me on a journey to transform - I built some habits to make my own behavior change like of trying to state a 51% point of view (saying I feel this 51%). The group environment was supportive and available with other people trying to overcome their own repeated behaviors. The awareness I gained from the program has been a springboard for new growth and an ongoing way to reflect on where my own imbalances occur.